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Life coaching to move ahead of the obstacles of life

Many famous personalities have a life coach. Why? They all use a personal development coach because they know that self-awareness is the key to success to navigate through the many obstacles of their lives. They are able to continue to take action that will direct them towards their goals, while their coach will constantly help them by reminding them of the course to keep and providing the necessary support.

The benefits of coaching

The most cited benefit of using life coaching is that it helps to increase self-awareness and this is the most indispensable condition for making the right decisions that change your life.
Personal development coaching, or life coaching, can really be seen as the next boom similar to what happened with IT, and many people consider coaching to be a growing profession today.

In general, it is possible to define the work of a personal development coach as helping people, where the coach will help you identify and achieve personal goals. A coach will help clients define and achieve goals using a variety of tools and techniques. Going from where we are to where we want to be is often obscured by many obstacles and uncertainties, which generates stress. If we do not ask ourselves the right questions, we will never be able to find the right answers. If we do not even clearly see the real obstacles blocking our path, how can we find a way to get around them? Sometimes we are so focused on what is wrong in our lives that we miss the opportunities that exist to take us to our solutions.

Call a coach

Applying to a personal development coach is a good way to help you move forward in life and overcome obstacles that prevent you from progressing.
It is difficult for a person to see the whole picture, all the options and all the factors that affect their quest to achieve their goals. This is where a life coach becomes priceless. They will ask the right questions to help customers become aware of their situation and help them make the right decisions. The right questions will unlock customer-specific solutions that have always been out of reach. Internal barriers may in some cases be erased simply with increased self-awareness and recognising one’s abilities and strengths.

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Immediate benefits from the first session

Can a life coach really help? On which areas can it make you feel better? What is the purpose of having a life coach?

Definition of a life coach

A life coach helps to cope with a situation encountered on a personal or professional level.  We can call on a life coach at the arrival of a particular event such as a divorce or a dismissal, but also to get out of an existential crisis, boredom or lack of meaning.
The life coach wants to solve the problem as soon as possible. He is more interested in the present to build the future, not only the past. It is usually done on a short period.

Advance on his personal and professional life

Most life coaches have their specialty but they can offer their guidance both in the professional and personal life.

Here are some topics that you can work with a life coach:

Diagnose the source of problem at work and find solutions
Prevent or recover from a burn out (exhaustion), or a bore out (boredom), or a lack of meaning
Find a different professional path
Rebuild after a separation, avoid repeating the same emotional patterns in the future
Improve your relationship with spouses, colleagues and/or family
Learn to better manage your time
Worry less, be less affected by the annoyances of everyday life
Strengthen your self esteem and self-confidence
Etc!
If you think about a topic that is not in this list, feel free to contact a life coach to know if he can accompany you on this theme.

Usefulness of a life coach

Getting the guidance from a life coach can help you get out of a situation in which you have been going around for too long. At one point, we have to admit that we are having trouble moving forward unaccompanied. To be accompanied by a life coach is the assurance of moving forward, with more ease. It is to give yourself every chance to remove the thorn from the foot and not to recoil before the problem that “eats” us every day. Indeed, the deadlines set with the life coach motivate and “forces” you to move forward!
It is also very important to feel supported, to be able to evacuate your annoyances, as well as mental burden. Indeed, the life coach writes (together with you) your personalised action plan to be happier!

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Individual coaching – A Question of Money?

Are you one of the people who thinks that the rates charged by an individual coach are too expensive? Have you ever considered working with an individual coach to carry out a project that you have been dreaming about for years and has not yet achieved or want to achieve a goal that is important to you? But you can’t because you think that the prices are too high?

Why use an individual coach?

Maybe you are experiencing some frustrations in your career path or in your life course. So you read books and searched the internet, and were then told that an individual coach could help you focus on what’s important to you and clarify your needs and aspirations.

You may be a leader, a leader who has organisational challenges and thinks he or she has tried everything without the desired success. You may also be experiencing difficulties with your partner and have heard that an individual coach can help you revive your relationship in 3 months?

Despite your everyday frustrations, your procrastination to take action, your fear of failing or being judged, your state of stress and helplessness, the perception that individual coaching is too expensive, slows down your desire to evolve and propel you towards a better orientation of yourself.

The price of individual coaching – A question of perception!

When you decide to spend your money to buy a new piece of clothing, a new phone, a new pair of shoes, a new car or go on a trip, how much does it cost?
Regardless, your perception is that you have something concrete to show and/or watch.
What to take into consideration is that when you choose to invest in your own personal development and professional with a life coach, the results are also tangible, as you will be able to see what your new approach is doing to impact you and your environment.
And even more, unlike the object you have bought, the well-being that you will have acquired by the individual coaching will be permanent.

Yes, but individual coaching is expensive!

Everything is relative in the perception of the tariff of individual coaching. Indeed, it’s expensive compared to what? In fact, ask yourself the following question:
“How long will the objects for which I enjoy spending my money, fill my sense of satisfaction?”

Even when spending on new things, new objects that at the time bring you little internal happiness, these are not permanent. Additionally, they probably cost you a lot of money as well.

The price of individual coaching 

You’ll probably agree that any athlete can work very well alone during his career. But we also know that without an individual coach, these athletes would have difficulty reaching a higher level of competition, improving their accelerated talent, increasing their level of motivation, increasing their level of skill development, and accomplishing their ambitious goals.

In the personal and professional life, it’s a bit the same thing that happens. You can work very well alone in your desire to accomplish and overcome your difficulties, but when you work with a coach, it’s like having an engine on your boat; you’ll be quicker to get where you want to be.

The question is:
“Is your personal and professional development a priority for you? ”
If so, go ahead, go for it and work with a coach, you deserve it!

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Professional Coach- Making the Right Choice

What is a professional coach?

A little history

The coaching comes from the maieutic art initiated by Socrates and described by Plato. Socrates describes this science as the art of “giving birth to the spirits of their knowledge”. Thanks to questioning, feedback and reframing techniques, Socrates made people aware of their contradictions and thus helps them question their beliefs, to reconsider their position, to refine their thinking.

Timothy Gallwey was the first to describe a coaching method designed to take into account the mental preparation of top athletes. He then refined his practice to meet the performance challenges of companies. Gradually coaching extended to the personal sphere to meet a need for well-being, quest for meaning and personal performance.
Today coaching tools come from different areas of the humanities such as management, helping relationships and communication. Different professions such as teachers, managers, coaches, consultants, therapists, sociologists, psychologists, specialists in emotional intelligence, contributed to the emergence of this profession.

Proposal for definition

There is no official definition of the term “coach”. From an etymological point of view, the word “coach” comes from the English verb “to coach” which means “to train”, “to accompany”, “to motivate”. François Délivré, professional coach, recognized author in the field and co-founder of the Academy of Coaching School in Paris, defined the professional coach as an external third party whose job is to conduct a series of individual interviews designed to enable a person to achieve his objectives more quickly and to succeed in his professional or personal life. For Vincent Lenhardt, author on coaching, management and collective intelligence, coaching is “the accompaniment of a person or a team”.

The life coach is a trained professional and needs to know the approaches and practices of professional coaching, question techniques, conduct change coaching, motivation techniques, and personal development. Alongside these skills, and depending on his field of intervention, the coach will master a basic approach in psychology, human resources or psycho sociology such as systemic analysis, transactional analysis, neuro linguistic programming, and organisational theory.

The role of the coach is to promote the personal or professional development of a person or the development of a company. He is a facilitator. Thanks to the relationship of trust that is created between him and the coached, he helps the person who is coached to:
Better understand each other (thanks to objective feedbacks)
Take a step back from a given situation or certainties
Identify strategies, skills and interferences
Consider other solutions to solve a problem or achieve a goal
Drive the changes he wants
Find his own solutions

Distinction between professional coaching and other similar professions

Professional coaching differs from other helping relationships such as:

Therapy
The therapy aims to solve a psychopathological disorder while coaching is geared towards achieving a goal. Therapy focuses on the “past-present”, while professional coaching focuses on how and the “present-future” couple.

Consulting
The consultant provides advice and expertise to the client while professional coaching coaching aims to help the client find his own solutions.

Mentoring
Mentoring is a relationship in which a more experienced professional (the mentor) brings his or her experience to a less experienced person (the mentored). Professional coaching differs from mentoring in that coaching is not part of a “knowing-learner” relationship, but in the context of a co-development and co-operation relationship.

When to use a coach

Who uses a coach?
When you wish to get individual coaching (someone wants to develop their own skills or solve a problem)
Manager support (in this case, a company uses a coach for a manager whose skills she wants to develop)
Executive support (the manager brings a problem concerning his company)

For which objectives?
In the case of individual coaching (person-centered coaching also called individual coaching or, in some cases, life coach or personal development coach), the requests are various and can relate to:
self-esteem
self affirmation
Self-confidence
personal development
development of skills and abilities
the professional future
professional development
career management
a professional reconversion
starting a business (business coaching)
get out of his comfort zone
personal branding (in the particular case of an entrepreneur)
the leadership
support for change
emotion management
stress management
to mourn
mental preparation
speaking in public
the quest for meaning
to find one’s way
problems solving
learn to let go
know each other better
improving relationships (relationship coaching)

When coaching relationships, it is about improving your communication, your relationships, resolving a conflict, going out of a psychological game or going out of a power game.

In the case of coaching a manager, a project manager, or more generally a team leader (team coaching or professional business coaching), the cases of appeal are related to a specific need and strictly professional such as:
team management, a job, skills improvement, team cohesion, strengthen your managerial posture, internal conflict management in a group, the animation of meetings, project support

As part of the coaching of the leader (coaching organizations, strategic coaching, executive coaching, business coaching or business coaching) the topics are extremely diverse. It can be an accompaniment of:
leadership building,
effective decision-making,
to the clarification of objectives
refining the corporate strategy (strategic vision),
to the animation of the executive committees,
to change management
to improve the overall performance of the company

Why is it difficult to choose a professional coach?

The coaching professions are not very regulated and it is possible to find self-proclaimed coaches that has not done any training or acquired the skills required to perform well in this job. In these conditions, choosing a professional coach is not alway easy.

How to choose a professional coach?

Accreditation is a process of evaluating the professional skills of a coach by an accredited association. It aims to appreciate the pragmatic experience of the accredited professional coach, his skills, his posture, his reflections on his professional practice.

Respect for a code of ethics

Any good professional coach must be able to present you his ethical framework. The code of ethics represents a set of rules that the coach agrees to respect as part of his professional accompaniment, including:
the obligation of professional secrecy,
the confidentiality of exchanges,
the prohibition of abuse of power,
the establishment of a contract,
the fact of refraining from acting outside of one’s competence.

The supervision
Supervision is a process in which a professional is accompanied by a person of the same profession, more experienced (the supervisor). Supervision allows the professional coach (here called “supervised”) to:
interact with a peer when he encounters a problem with a client (the supervised coach can not effectively accompany a client);
avoid the phenomena of counter-transference (situation in which the coach is projected on his client and can not take a step back and remain objective);
improve your coaching practice.
A professional coach who is not supervised takes the risk of influencing his client according to his own frame of reference (his vision) and without taking into account the specific problems of the client.

Mastering a basic approach
In addition to coaching training and to be operational, the certified coach must master a basic approach in psychology and/or psycho sociology. If he works with a manager and a leader, he also needs tools to analyse groups and organisations.

Work on oneself
Coaching is a discipline dealing with humans, it would be dangerous for a client to be accompanied by a professional coach who has not done a therapeutic job on him. The therapeutic work of the certified coach allows him:
to have better knowledge of himself, of his behaviours, attitudes, motivations;
identify areas of darkness that may affect interactions;
to be independent outside the eyes of others.
The objective is that the professional coach has done a job on him sufficiently deep so that his own interference does not affect his objectivity. Otherwise, he could unconsciously influence the client according to his own frame of reference and not respect the individuality of the client.

The know-how of the coach
In addition to the skills previously described, the certified professional coach must have certain qualities such as benevolence, integrity, active listening, self-confidence, a positive vision of life, a form of wisdom and common sense. He must also be able to confront the client when necessary.

The feeling
Coaching is above all a relationship of trust and co-development. The first criterion involved in choosing a professional coach is the way you feel with him. Are you comfortable? What does your intuition tell you?

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Coaching – Live fully!

So you have decided. You want to hire a coach to improve your life. Congratulations! Because for many people, it is not easy to ask for help. Then the question arises – how do I find a coach? 

The recommendation

Do you know someone around you who has already used a coach? If so, ask him if he/she would recommend the coach they had. If the answer is positive, you might have a potential candidate. Maybe your family knows of a good coach to. Ask around in your close circle first to see.

The professional meeting

During your personal or professional meetings, maybe have you discussed with a coach? Did you have a good feeling? If yes, contact this person. If life has put a coach on your path, it may be a message … or not ! It’s all up to you!

Coaching associations

There are several associations of professional coaches.

Internet

It is also possible to find a coach online. Simply use a search engine. Some coaches may also have a blog.

How to find a coach: the selection phase

Any coaching process starts with a first discussion with the coach. This is an opportunity to ask him questions and to feel how the encounter resonates in you.
Keep in mind that maybe the “best coach” won’t fit you. The challenge is to find a coach who appeals to you. To help you make this selection, here is a checklist.

Rational criteria

You can first base yourself on objective criteria.

Is the coach certified? The coaching profession is not yet regulated. Everyone can call themselves a coach. This is why serious coaching trainings propose to spend a certification attesting to the coach’s coaching abilities.
Which frames of reference does the coach use? Be wary of the coach who tells you of his “coaching intuition”. Intuition is useful but insufficient to accompany in a professional way. The coach must be able to justify the methodological tools he uses. Some examples: NLP, transactional analysis, systemic, Schutz’s human element, nonviolent communication. A coach without a frame of reference is more of a  guru!
How much does the coach charge? He must tell you that clearly. The price of a 1 hour session of coaching varies between 50 € and 100 € on average for an individual. Between 200 € and 300 € per hour in a professional context (manager or manager).
Do you prefer face-to-face or distance coaching? Face to face is the ideal situation for a coaching. Nevertheless, there’s also the opportunity to do distance coaching if you live far away from your preferred coach.

Irrational criteria

Many irrational elements influence your decision. Your feelings are key indicators!

Are you more comfortable with a man or a woman for accompaniment? Ask yourself the question sincerely.
Are you confident with this coach? When you met or heard him on the phone, do you feel trust? Trust is a key element in the quality of the relationship with your coach and for achieving your coaching goals.
Do you feel good with him? The question is simple but not necessarily easy to answer. Are you comfortable talking to him openly about your life?

In conclusion

Finding a coach is as delicate as finding a therapist. It’s all about choosing the coach that suits you. The quality of the relationship with him will probably prevail over all the rational elements. So listen to your heart rather than your head!

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Life Coach London Diary

Welcome to the Life Coach London Diary!

I’ve launched the life coach London diary to give you insight into the life of a life coach living, working and loving life in London.

I’ve been on the path of coaching and holistic healing for over 20 years and I’ve been on more courses, experienced more schools of learning, the great and the less so, more times than you can imagine.  One thing that I’ve seen time and time again that this path is “pitched” as being a dream job and in many ways it is which I’ll come to but for many that attempt to become successful life coaches, the lure of a great salary and the dream that’s certainly sold in the life coaching schools around the world rarely lives up to expectation.

Why? Well mainly because most people that want to become life coaches are simply not aware of the amount of personal development needed to truly walk the talk.

There it is in a nutshell….If you want to live and breathe the coaching path especially in London, then you need to be prepared to get very real with yourself, your clients and ultimately with life itself.

So why life coaching?

For me, because there is no other choice.  Being a life coach in London, is literally a path designed for me.  I love more than anything seeing my client’s eyes light up as they have that big moment of realisation about something that’s been an issue for year upon year. And once they’ve seen inside the box then everything changes for ever.

Coaching is exciting, it’s powerful and the only way I can ever coach anyone is due to the fact that my number one case study is me.

And that’s the point, am I the finished article? Not at all, I’m a continual work in progress and I feel it’s my thirst for self-betterment for myself and in the lives of all of my clients that makes me the life coach I am.

So why London?

Really because there is no where else like it.  The capital, the buzz, the crazy is what I love the most.  We Londoners are a unique breed of passion, desire, drive, happiness, loneliness, honesty, pain and strength.

So many of my clients are really successful by most people’s standards but until we have a deeper sense of self-acceptance and self-value the gains we make financially and in life lack that x factor, that magic edge that comes form really loving and celebrating who we are both as individuals as a society.

Under all the fast-pace I feel is still that sense of adventure and community and launching the life coach London blog I’m looking to reach out to everyone and through honesty and openness and connect with like-minded clients that wish to get out there and really make their lives happen!!!

I’m really pleased you’re reading this.

Hit me up on the phone/text/mail/smoke signal/carrier pigeon.

Let’s do this!

Mark